Look Before You Leap

During a conversation with my sister I mentioned someone that seemed...um...what's a good word...interested in my upcoming, life shaking transition. 

"He's...sweet." I told her.  "No, he's sly." She said. 

Hmmm.

Oh...little naive child...you are becoming a woman...a wise woman. 


I took a few days to reflect and realized how trusting I am.  Being the hyper-sensitive person God created me to be and trusting everyone on the planet is a recipe for disaster.  Trust me.  I've been knocked clear off my feet too many times to count. 

Please allow me to share a few recent experiences on trust...

I trusted a Dentist to repair a cracked tooth.  One simple appointment, right?  No. Try 3 months of 20 emotionally scarring appointments.

I trusted a skin specialist to treat redness on my face.  What I thought was rosacea she said was sun damage.  Did she treat it?  No.  6 torturing appointments of a million lasers shooting into my face, I now have light brown spots under the surface of my skin, and I still have redness.

I trusted an ENT to tell me why a little gland in my neck is swollen.  A cat scan and 6 appointments later, I end up with a huge doctor bill and the only thing I know is which gland it is.

Sit tight, I'm not finished.

I trusted another doctor at one of the top hospitals in Atlanta to finally solve my problem.  Right after the shock wore off from walking into a Cancer Center, I was assured of how quick and painless a biopsy would be.  "99 people out of 100 barely felt a thing."  Relaxed and in my best state of mind, the doctor inserted a fine, long needle into my salivary gland.  Two seconds later I nearly took her arm off. 

As I dried my tears the doctor then shared that the 1 other patient needed the procedure in the same area in which I did.  "The neck is very sensitive."  Really?!! Even after I advised you my Doctor said I would need to be sedated.  Can you imagine the anger I held back?    

This had to be one of the most painful experiences of my life and the most scarring.  At least during the birth of my child, I expected pain.  I was prepared.  I'm still unsure which hurt worse, the actual physical pain or the emotional trauma that lasted hours after the incident.

Trust.  What a funny word. 
I walk around with my heart open and on my sleeve and believe that the entire planet has good intentions.  I trust everyone!    

I'm taking this lesson and applying it to the area of my life that needs it most... You, oh so pretty, men.

If I could only tame the rebel in me.

Surely women of the Bible didn't go around trusting every handsome man that crossed their path.  Like a 10 year old little girl as I do; batting their eyelashes and applying their lipstick.

I'd be willing to bet they knew exactly who their husband wouldn't be.  They knew he'd be a Man of God with strong hands and the ability the lead.

I bet she took one look at Mr. I Want to be your "Night" in Shining Armour, tested the spirit, laughed and gently sent him packing.

Life's funny.  I still love men, I just hate doctors now. 

Before you start trusting everyone, test the spirit.

"You see only with your eyes, so you are easily fooled."The Karate Kid 2010






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